Myth & Truth
How to manage children, when they are adamant? ....... Anitha sudhakar
The children of such age have only positive approach to anything; in their mind there should be nothing impossible; and for them, everything must be handy and be available at once. Whereas as adults that we are, we are severely adulterated; we cannot even think of getting such positive mind of the child. It is our incapacity we get annoyed or irritated at our handicap. Move with your child; tell them whatever they want is there; and also teach them to observe patience. In doing so, the children’s mind by itself will search for what they want much keener than the ways your mind could opt for and embark upon to deliver their needs. As they grow there will be inventions from them. Do not dub them as having adamant behaviour. At best what you shall do is to move with them mentally and you are already searching for the truth. And this mental acceptance is the best of all prayers. The ways are opened up for you and you have embarked upon this mission already. Until your ideas and concepts are delivered to you by way of knowledge by which you can bring an abstract vision, a material reality; observe patience; and advice the same to your children; and make them believe what they ask for is only within their capacity; and induce them to think faithfully believing in what they wish for is very near. Make them the believers of their own mind. Your child’s beautiful life will soon unfold before him; Thomas Edison wanted light in darkness and he invented electricity because none could buy it for him since it is not an available commodity purchasable from shops. If only Edison had asked for this from the people around he would have been called a mental or a psyche. His quest for pursuing what he wanted began when he knew what he wanted is never available. So leave your child in this state of affairs. Tell them it is not possible for you to buy for him what he wanted; and make him feel he must find his own way to buy or if not available, invent! And after that ignore his pestering, very patiently. Repeat the same advice to your child all the time whenever and wherever possible. Now your child is placed on a new horizon. He will start seeing a new world. While teaching this hope and patience to your child, take him to the vastness of the nature away from the worldly matters i.e. take him to the sea shore or some hill top or to the terrace of your house in the night to make him see the vastness of the night sky and its beauty as you advice him of the hopeful tomorrow. May God Bless you drfazl@gmail.com